You never know what you can gain,Remember efforts never go in vain,Rather they bring success in a chain,But only if you try again and again.Failures do come but never mind,For the failures and success occur in quick succession,With failures putting a note of interrogation,In front of you dedication and finally commanding,The bright future to lie under you sweet possession.Let Bygones be bygones;For the past is gone beyond repair,Whip up your enthusiasm & boost up your morale,Fix up your target and be dedicated,This is the way you can change the streaks of your thenar.Continuous efforts; and a strong determination,Leads you to the gateway of your destination,For a mere practice can bring laurels to the nation,And finally commanding the bright future,To lie under your sweet possession.
M.L.PANDIA
KYA NAAM DU
If one knows and knows that he knows not,And accepts that he knows not;He is a student ideal,Teach Him.If one knows and knows not that he knows,And says he knows not;He is distracted,Guide Him.If one knows and knows that he knows, And claims that he knows;He is a leader,Follow Him.If one knows & knows that he knowsAnd claims that he knows not;He is a Silent Killer,Fear Him.If one knows not & knows that he knows not,Yet claims that he knows;He is an idiot,**** Him Off.
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life
What you spend years building may be destroyed overnight.Build it anyway.Honesty and frankness make you vulnerable.Be honest and frank anyway.The good you do today will be forgotten tomorrow.Do well anyway.People are unreasonable, illogical and self-centered.Love them anyway.The biggest people with biggest ideas can be shot down by the smallest minds.Think big anyway.What’s new may be soor may be old ideas in new forms.Try the new anyway.If you are successful, you will win false and true enemies. Succeed anyway.Great ideas don’t always get translated into great realitiesKeep trying anyway.People favor underdogsbut follow only top dogs.Fight for some underdogs anyway.If you do well, people will accuse you of selfish ulterior motives.Do well anyway.Give the world the best you haveand you’ll get kicked in teeth.Give the world the best you have anyway.Extracted from Some Old book
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LIFE GOES LIKE THAT
We all face situations in our lives that cannot be changed and that make us feel helpless and hopeless. Perhaps it is less serious than that, but we are stressed and worried. It might be an event that has happened, is happening, or will happen.It should provide some immediate comfort to consider that these situations do not directly cause these awful feelings, but it is what we think of these situations. Changing our thoughts can have an enormous effect on how we are feeling. This has been stated by many great minds, over very many years. “I had the blues because I had no shoes until upon the street; I met a man who had no feet.” – Ancient Persian sayingby reviewing some of the good things in our lives, past and present, we can feel good even in what appears to be a very disturbing situation. As long as there is nothing we can do to fix a problem, dwelling on the negative aspects of it will only make us feel worse and will do absolutely no good. Since it all depends on what is in our thoughts, we can control this. “The mind is its own place, and in itself can make a heaven of hell, a hell of heaven.” – John Milton (1608-1674) So start listing the things in your life that make or have made you happy. Stuff your mind with other things that make you smile or laugh. Keep it up so as not to let the negative creep back in.Study babies. They fall and get up and try again and again, and then they walk. They are usually always ready to laugh, at the littlest things. They are constantly interested in new things to learn about, and normally sleep well. If they brood about a bad experience it’s not for long.”Things turn out best for the people who make the best out of the way things turn out.” – Art Linkletter
Thoughts
Life is thought, and when we cease to think, we are not living. How we think, is the kind of life we live. Since we are able to control our thoughts, we can determine the course of our life and the way we feel during our time here.”We are what we think.” – Buddha (BC)It is very important to establish good thinking guidelines and follow them. Placing thoughts of peace and happiness in our minds will help to make our lives peaceful and happy. If we do not set our thoughts properly, we travel through life by way of places where we will wish we had not gone.”It is the mind that maketh good or ill, that maketh wretch or happy, rich or poor.” – Edmund Spenser (1552-1599)Our daily life includes thoughts associated with responsibilities concerning work, other people, and handling problems. If possible, try not to think of too many different things during your day, and don’t move or think too quickly. Start your morning with a plan to come through to bedtime relaxed, contented, and ready for a restful night’s sleep.”Your own mind is a sacred enclosure into which nothing harmful can enter except by your permission.” – Arnold Bennett (1867-1932)Reflect about things that can improve your feelings – learning, completing tasks and duties, pleasant and relaxing experiences, kind words. Think about your happiness, goals, life and its pleasures, your principles and your conduct. Think about enjoying the moment.”Garner up pleasant thoughts in your mind, for pleasant thoughts make pleasant lives.” – John Wilkins (1614-1672)What are you thinking about?
Happiness
“If you aren’t happy, why aren’t you?Chances are it is because you want something which you do not have, objects or conditions. This is probably not a good enough reason and a review of your situation and perceptions may be in order.You may have seen video of children in very poor countries laughing and playing, unconcerned that they should have more to be happy about. They are happy because they are playing, because they have their friends and family, and some food to eat that day. Everyone has the right to be happy, and if they can be in their situation, shouldn’t you?”Happiness consists more in small conveniences of pleasures that occur every day, than in great pieces of good fortune that happen but seldom to a man in the course of his life.” – Ben Franklin (1706-1790) Happiness is inside us, in our minds, in our thinking. It is not external material things or experiences, but the enjoyment of our thoughts and feelings. This is good because our thoughts, and therefore our happiness, are up to us.Start by reviewing the things that you have to be happy about and dwell on these. Don’t overlook the little or basic things that you take for granted. Make a habit of substituting unhappy thoughts with happy thoughts. Whenever an unfavorable picture enters your mind, eject it and replace it with a pleasant one. We all have some nice experiences to recollect and there are usually little pleasures around us most of the time. You can even imagine enjoyable experiences, and it will have a similar positive effect. “Happiness is like a butterfly which, when pursued, is always beyond our grasp, but, if you will sit down quietly, may alight upon you.” – Nathaniel Hawthorne (1804-1864) Establish good principles and conduct you according to these principles. Love, or at least be tolerant of, your fellow humans. Don’t strive too hard for that which, in the end, will not make you happier. Acceptance
When faced with a serious problem the first thing we can do is determine if there is a way to fix it. If there is a way then we can lay out a plan and go to it. If there is not a reasonable solution then we can resign ourselves to the fact that it isn’t going to change and move on. Acceptance of the situation can provide some immediate relief from the anger, anxiety and stress that might be burdening us.Why wouldn’t you accept it, if it does not have a solution? Rehashing it over and over in your mind will not make it disappear and is just self punishment. The Serenity Prayer as used by the Alcoholics Anonymous organization puts it in this way.”God grant me the serenity to accept the things I cannot change, the courage to change the things I can, and the wisdom to know the difference.”Most of our worries are about something that has happened and is still with us, real or perhaps only as a memory. If it has already happened, what can be learned? It is the experience of struggling, surviving and carrying on that makes us better humans. How often have you worried intensely over something that turned out to be not as bad as you initially thought or not a problem at all? Even some of our most serious personal problems often fade away in a month or year. Acceptance is an important ingredient in the formula of life. It makes an irritating situation acceptable, a major problem minor. Acceptance should be waiting to take over whenever there is not a way out.”There is only one way to happiness and that is to cease worrying about the things which are beyond the power of the will.” – Epictetus (55-135)
Confidence
Have you often admired the person who is friendly, relaxed and talks easily in a crowd? Most of us have wished that we had more of these outgoing attributes to help us in our work and daily lives.Confidence comes easily and naturally for some, for many others it seems impossible. The good news is that it is a habit that can be learned to some degree by anyone. It will take some training and practice, but what a great way to be more successful and to feel better.”The control of the thinking machine is perfectly possible. And since nothing whatever happens to us outside our own brain; since nothing hurts us or gives us pleasure except within the brain, the supreme importance of being able to control what goes on in that mysterious brain is patent. Without the power to dictate to the brain its task and to ensure obedience – true life is impossible.” – Arnold Bennett (1867-1931)A great source for learning self-confidence is of course books. You haven’t been alone in the need for information on improving your ability to interact positively with people and there is numerous self-help books available to get you started. Just take an easy approach and read a variety of the best sellers that you feel will benefit you the most.Using autosuggestion, by repeatedly filling the mind with thoughts of calmness and composure, can improve self-assurance. Picture in your mind, as vividly as possible, a scene in which you are performing very successfully. Picture this again and again so that your mind is totally occupied with your easy performance. This will push out doubt as there is not room for both trains of thought. Every time a negative thought pops up, immediately replace it with positive thoughts.Affirmations are a similar technique that can work wonders. This is the repeating of positive words about yourself, concerning what you wish to do. The words cram the mind with confident thoughts that have a direct effect on how you feel and act. As an example, if you have to make a presentation – ‘ I have nothing to lose. They like me and I feel good and comfortable with these people. I am concentrating on them, not on myself. They are not here to be critical of me. I am doing everything slowly, calmly, surely. I am relaxed and breathing deeply and easily. I feel confident about this and am in control.’”They can because they think they can.” – Vergil (BC)
Responsibility
Our lives are only as good as we decide to make them. As with any worthwhile project we should make short and long range plans. We should follow them through, reviewing and altering them as we go. It is our design and determination that decide our destiny, and this is our responsibility.When things go wrong we should not be quick to blame anyone. This can easily become a habit supplying us with ready excuses for our own mistakes and problems. Let’s examine others’ and our own actions and then decide how we should proceed with our own efforts.”Be not angry that you cannot make others as you wish them to be, since you cannot make yourself as you wish to be.” – Thomas Kempis (1380-1471)We should make a special effort to be what we want to be, giving consideration to what others might wish of us. We must do our duties, complete our tasks, be kind and honest. When there is the temptation for an immediate pleasure that may be harmful to us or to others, we must resist. Where there are injustices we should speak up.”It is not alone what we do, but also what we do not do, for which we are accountable.” – Moliere (1622-1673)We are individuals and should do what we believe in, taking responsibility for our actions. A good critical look at ourselves is very helpful in determining what needs changing. It may also reveal much good to be proud of.Not in the clamor of the crowded street,Not in the shouts and plaudits of the throng,But in ourselves, are triumph and defeat.- Henry Longfellow (1807-1882)
Values
Most of us go through life always wanting more and better. Being in this state of constant desire does not coexist with peace of mind.It is normal to want better lives for ourselves and our families, but we have to balance our goals with the cost. How much does this promotion, vacation, new purchase, cost in terms of real life? How many extra hours of stress and anxiety, now and later, go into getting it?With the fast paced living that surrounds us it’s difficult to avoid being swept in. Too many of us are rushing through our daily lives to do more and to acquire more. We are becoming less interested in our fellow humans as friends and more as competitors as we try to keep up or to possess more material goods. There is a big push in this social direction by corporations and their marketers. They are in business to make money for their managements and shareholders, so this will likely continue if there is not much resistance. Advertising is a powerful persuasion to buy things we may not need or maybe not even really want. The overall success of marketing has created a want addiction for many consumers.As more and more we come to falsely regard material gains as success we are missing out on the true values of life. Money really is quite necessary in our lives, but its value should not be worshiped. The good things in life are free, life itself, friendship, nature. Whatever we do possess, in the end we must leave it all behind. “The cost of a thing is the amount of what I call life, which is required to be exchanged for it immediately or in the long run.” – Henry Thoreau (1817-1862) Faith
Faith is defined as having complete confidence, trust and belief. For a strong and rewarding journey through life we should have a generous amount of faith. Faith in ourselves, our families and friends, our God.”Have faith, hope, and charity. That’s the way to live successfully.” – 1950’s song.Believe in yourself, a unique individual having personal preferences and talents. Have a deep belief that your days will be completed as you wish and imagine they will. This has a very strong and positive influence on your actions. It is just the opposite of feeling anxious and worried that you will fail. This is not a guarantee, but an excellent advantage working in your favor, available for every occasion and for life itself. “It’s faith in something and enthusiasm for something that makes life worth living.” – Oliver Wendell Holmes (1809-1894) Believe in your fellow human beings. They are special people with special problems, different lives and backgrounds, different beliefs. Live by the golden rule, expressed in many different ways in other cultures and religions. That is basically – treat others the way you would like to be treated. A time proven way to feel better about our lives and the road ahead. Religion has long been recognized as a comforting haven in a stormy environment. It can provide comfort for the harshness and hardships encountered in our modern hectic lives. Faith is of special importance to us when we are down. It picks us up and gives us confidence. “Religion gives me a new zest for life; it gives me faith, hope, and courage. It banishes tensions, anxieties, fears, and worries. It gives purpose to my life – and direction.” – William James (1842-1910)
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